Tao Te Ching 79

Failure is an opportunity. If you blame someone else, there is no end to the blame. Therefore the Master fulfills her own obligations and corrects her own mistakes. She does what she needs to do and demands nothing of others.
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Failure is an opportunity to take personal responsibility for our life. The other option, which is wildly popular, is to blame someone else, often anyone else. But once we go down that path there is no destination, only an endless walk over hot coals.

The Taoist Master understands the wisdom of meeting her own needs and tending to her own business without making that business dependent on others fulfilling her demands. In so doing, she removes the possibility of blaming someone else for her failure, which at the same time removes the possibility of someone else causing or contributing to her failure.

Standing on our own two feet, in our own shoes, is harder than it appears.